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January 3, 2025 – 📋 Good advice for somebody anniemueller.com/posts/goo…
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December 30, 2024 – 🔗 One bucket at a time anniemueller.com/posts/one…
December 29, 2024 – “You weren’t planning to read this book, were you? No? You were planning to pet me? Good, that’s what I thought.”
December 29, 2024 – 🔗 Retrospective, reading anniemueller.com/posts/ret…
December 27, 2024 – Differentiation is important: Dopamine is about expecting to feel good, not actually feeling good. We need to get better at knowing which one we are
December 27, 2024 – When we’re feeling bad, overwhelmed, tired… Sad, lonely, depressed, uncertain, afraid… Worn out, stressed out, needing a reward, a way to feel
December 27, 2024 – 🔗 📱Default apps (2024) anniemueller.com/posts/def…
December 26, 2024 – 🔗 Joyful, joyful anniemueller.com/posts/joy…
December 25, 2024 – Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays from our home to yours ❤️
December 23, 2024 – “My first act of free will shall be to believe in free will.” —William James I can’t prove whether we have free will or not. But I know my life
December 23, 2024 – When you start seeing all sides of something, some issue, it’s tough to find ground to stand on. Then you feel disoriented all the time. An
December 23, 2024 – Disagreeing is a skill and I can get better at it. There’s a big difference between disagreeing and being disagreeable. Being disagreeable is a
December 23, 2024 – Watching the Keep Sweet documentary: [!quote] “I didn’t know what was happening to me. I couldn’t identify ‘rape’ or ‘assault.’ I didn’t even have
December 20, 2024 – An easy fantasy read with medieval-ish spycraft and political intrigue. Plot was strained and it dragged a bit; cut by 100 pages and it would be a
December 20, 2024 – …to live in absolute freedom is neither possible nor desirable. Without rules based on past experience it is easy to make costly mistakes; without a
December 20, 2024 – 🔗 Asking too much of the fediverse anniemueller.com/posts/ask…
December 20, 2024 – Our essential holiday viewing Movies we’ll actually watch Fantastic Mr Fox A Town Called Panic Die Hard Howl’s Moving Castle Nightmare Before
December 17, 2024 – Acceptance is not agreement. You can accept someone—just as they are—without being in agreement. Acceptance does not mean you like or enjoy
December 17, 2024 – Authority exists when two people (or groups) agree upon an authoritative relationship for a mutually beneficial purpose. There are lots of
December 17, 2024 – Valid authoritative relationships are limited in at least one of two key ways: A valid authoritative relationship is limited in duration, or A
December 17, 2024 – GARDEN/notes/Not having a plan means making more decisions. Ideally, you have the plan already made before you start the day. Take 5 minutes at the
December 17, 2024 – Stand up. Stretch. Take a ten-minute walk. Loosen up those neck and shoulder muscles. When it’s work time, do the work. Then take a break. Then get
December 17, 2024 – The big thing doesn’t have to be a big thing. It’s just the thing, the focal point, the one thing you’ll make sure happens even if nothing else
December 17, 2024 – Lack of a plan means that you have no (known, valid) reason to say no. Requests, demands, suggestions, obligations, interruptions come at you. You
December 17, 2024 – Don’t expect yourself to switch instantly from one task to another. Work in transition time. Give your brain and body a break. Buffer the edges of
December 17, 2024 – Approval means, “I condone or sanction or endorse you or this thing you are doing.” Approval has an official ring to it. We use it in legal language
December 17, 2024 – is something any one person can give to any other person. You don’t need any training or qualifications to accept somebody. Acceptance
December 17, 2024 – GARDEN/notes/Acceptance and approval are not the same. These two things are not the same. They are very different. But we get them mixed up all the
December 17, 2024 – Can you summarize it on an index card, the main parts of the plan? Can you explain it to a 10-year-old before you lose them to boredom? A good plan
December 17, 2024 – 🔗 Retrospective, financial anniemueller.com/posts/ret…
December 16, 2024 – A moment of connection, a song, a concept, a new product, a moment of silence, a bigger perspective, a blog post, a drawing? If you can’t figure out
December 16, 2024 – What scares you is what has the power to hold you, to trap you, to keep you locked down. Because fear is so powerful (and because we’re not very


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