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The original safe spaces

June 20, 2025

Small steps in a (somewhat) straight line will get you somewhere

May 28, 2025

Cultivate obstinate opinions about two categories of things

May 14, 2025

Percolate

April 30, 2025

Announce your deadlines

April 30, 2025

Trust the ebb and flow of creativity

April 30, 2025

There is no valid authority without commensurate responsibility

April 28, 2025

Choose what you want to bad at to reset your defaults

April 17, 2025

We have default reactions and behaviors

April 17, 2025

Facing my fear does not require extremes

April 16, 2025

This is just to say

April 4, 2025

Aspirational rules for life

March 31, 2025

What's the situation and what can I do about it?

March 1, 2025

Publishing what I write motivates me to write more

February 4, 2025

Absolute acceptance

January 29, 2025

Am I supporting or shouting over?

January 22, 2025

Wanting something is not the same as enjoying it

December 27, 2024

Inputs for feeling better

December 27, 2024

Disagreeing is a skill I can improve

December 23, 2024

I don’t have to know but I can choose to be certain

December 23, 2024

Lack of vocabulary traps you in the originating context

December 23, 2024

My life is better when I believe in free will

December 23, 2024

Approval requires authority

December 17, 2024

Not having a plan means making more decisions

December 17, 2024

Take breaks

December 17, 2024

Valid authority has clearly defined limits

December 17, 2024

What acceptance is not

December 17, 2024

Acceptance

December 17, 2024

Acceptance is not the same as approval

December 17, 2024

A good plan is a simple plan

December 17, 2024

Prioritize one big thing each day

December 17, 2024

To save time, plan your day ahead of time

December 17, 2024

Give yourself buffers, time to transition

December 17, 2024

Valid authority is based on defined criteria

December 17, 2024

Be careful with your Yes; it is an agreement

December 16, 2024

What will you produce with your next action?

December 16, 2024

Be clear with your No; don't say Maybe if you mean No

December 16, 2024

Benefits of feeling alone

December 16, 2024

The cage that fear creates

December 16, 2024

Productivity as means, not end

December 16, 2024

Approval versus connection

December 14, 2024

Orient your life toward comfort or growth

December 12, 2024

Refuse to let fear dominate

December 12, 2024

Ignorance, two flavors

September 20, 2024

Substitutionary grief

September 3, 2024

Some memories are crystal clear

August 27, 2024

Lessons

August 22, 2024

From flexibility to structure

May 7, 2024

If my body

May 6, 2024

Death is in the room

May 3, 2024

Retrospective

May 2, 2024

Hiking church

May 1, 2024

Urgency fuels anxiety and is fueled by fantasy

April 1, 2024

Power does not have to be a zero-sum game

February 29, 2024

Authority is validated by the agreement of the people under the authority

November 30, 2023

Here are the things that matter

October 20, 2023

Winning an argument is not changing someone's mind

October 9, 2023

Optimizing for delight

October 3, 2023

Aim for incremental improvements to continually increase quality

September 18, 2023

Why we are friends

September 4, 2023

Rebirth, a term people enjoy using

August 16, 2023

Homemade electrolyte powder

August 4, 2023

Relief is a good feeling, but not the same as joy

August 4, 2023

What fuels the writing

July 20, 2023

Choose what you want to be bad at so you can focus your efforts

June 6, 2023

Feeling safe is not necessarily being safe

June 6, 2023

Fail at least 15% of the time (I have that covered)

June 6, 2023

Failure is defragilising

June 6, 2023

Running provides a disproportionate amount of lingering joy

May 20, 2023

Tackle a big thing first

April 30, 2023

Reminders of what works

April 29, 2023

Four (helpful) beliefs I try to live by

March 7, 2023

The law of self-determination

March 7, 2023

The law of ownership

March 7, 2023

The law of urgency

March 7, 2023

The law of finite resources

March 7, 2023

The law of trade-offs

March 7, 2023

Let go of whatever you can afford to live without

March 6, 2023

Arena people stay with you through the shitty parts

March 6, 2023

Less, fewer, lighter, easier, better

March 6, 2023

When nothing leads to diving

February 19, 2023

Things I want to be bad at

February 19, 2023

Disorientation is just the feeling before you get oriented

February 15, 2023

Buffers + options + agency = stability

January 10, 2023

An incomplete list of things that help me feel safe

January 10, 2023

Being part of a group helps you change

December 28, 2022

Single source of truth

December 28, 2022

Dopamine is about expecting to feel good, not actually feeling good

December 27, 2022

Dopamine isn't that great

December 27, 2022

Eudaimonia

December 26, 2022

Stephen Wolfram talking about stuff I don't understand

December 17, 2022

Rulial space

December 17, 2022

Women are doing too many non-promotable tasks

December 13, 2022

Safety is about feeling safe and being safe

December 6, 2022

Notes are for better thinking

December 4, 2022

A MOC is a map of content, an index, a list

December 3, 2022

Equilibrium means finding the few essentials within the infinite possibilities

November 29, 2022

Hannah Wilke

November 27, 2022

Moral panic seems like it works, but it doesn't really

November 27, 2022

Habits keep me grounded

November 26, 2022

Chasing social media popularity is like eating a stale donut

November 26, 2022

On making things easier

November 26, 2022

Beware a misplaced loyalty to tools

November 22, 2022

Who is the central figure of my own life?

November 22, 2022

Talking about your specific interests helps people find you

August 30, 2022

It's okay to start in the middle

June 20, 2022

Don't confuse busy for productive

April 30, 2022

Choose the (social media) tool that helps you set the right pace

October 6, 2015