Choose what you want to be bad at so you can focus your efforts - AOKAY

June 6, 2023 notes

In keeping with an approach to life that is GARDEN/notes/Less, fewer, lighter, easier, better, I’m consciously choosing what I want to be bad at.

Some things I want to be bad at no matter what. Being good at them is antithetical to my values.

Some things I want to be bad at because trying to be good at them undermines my progress in what matters to me more.

There’s a mediocre / mastery trade-off:

If I look at, say, a handful of options, interesting options, realistically I have time and energy to be good at maybe one of those options.

I can focus my time and energy and enjoy gaining mastery in that one area. I can be deliberate about that choice and let go of the lingering (and unreasonable) idea that I should manage to be good at all the things. I can drop the guilt that keeps me shuffling through options, trying to somehow drag them all up the hill with me. I can focus on one thing and enjoy the achievement at that one thing and let myself dip into the others as I want with the full knowledge that I will keep being mediocre at them.

Anyway, here’s a list of GARDEN/notes/Things I want to be bad at.

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