post Buffers + options + agency = stability Because life is mostly out of our control, and unpredictable, we need ways to build stability. GARDEN/notes/Safety is about feeling safe and being January 10, 2023 An incomplete list of things that help me feel safe What makes us feel safe? Here’s my personal and incomplete list: reminding myself that I have gotten through shit before and I will certainly get January 10, 2023 01-10-A good change An odd, poignant moment this morning. I have a bad cold. (Thanks, kids!) Took cold meds last night to sleep, knowing they’d knock me out past my January 10, 2023 post post Tchaikovsky, Adrian - Cage of Souls Malerman, Josh - Bird Box Kaysen, Susanna - Girl Interrupted post post Stewart, Mary - The Crystal Cave 01-03-When good things happen When good things happen, when glory arrives, when love comes through, when gifts are given, when a beautiful moment reveals itself: Knowing I don’t January 3, 2023 01-03-Less, fewer, lighter, easier My new year’s resolution is less, fewer, lighter, easier. Have less, hold fewer, be lighter, make easier. As a motto for the year, I’m adopting this January 3, 2023 post The Space Between Worlds 01-01-A good slide into the new year My colleague and friend in Zurich taught me the phrase Guten Rutsch: It translates to “good slide,” and funny enough, it’s completely senseless. January 1, 2023 Nice 🔗 Greta Thunberg’s Twitter takedown inadvertently leads to Andrew Tate’s arrest for human trafficking a perfect way to wrap up the year, honestly December 30, 2022 Pied Beauty by Gerard Manley Hopkins Glory be to God for dappled things – For skies of couple-colour as a brinded cow; For rose-moles all in stipple upon trout December 30, 2022 post 12-29-Dinner Putting groceries away and found the brie, apricot preserves, and pastry I bought to make baked brie on Christmas day. Forgot about it. So that’s December 29, 2022 Single source of truth [!tldr] What is a single source of truth? A practice A single source of truth (SSOT) is the practice of aggregating the data from many systems December 28, 2022 Being part of a group helps you change [!quote] The evidence is clear: If you want to change a habit, you must find an alternative routine, and your odds of success go up dramatically December 28, 2022 12-28-omglol Who’s on omg.lol? I know I’ve seen people sharing theirs, but I didn’t bookmark them. Now I have time to play around and want some inspiration December 28, 2022 Dopamine isn't that great [[../_attachments/Dopamine isn’t that great/2025-07-02-1707-img-Dopamine isn’t that great.png]] Dopamine is very complex and has a lot of jobs in December 27, 2022 Dopamine is about expecting to feel good, not actually feeling good I like to feel good. You like to feel good. Some things that seem to make us feel good don’t. Not really. Some things give us a gratification hit, a December 27, 2022 Eudaimonia [!tldr] eudaimonia (noun) Greek (from as eudemon from as _eu_good + daimōn genius). Happiness or well-being consisting in the full realization of December 26, 2022 Magic 🔗 Magic - Nicholas Bate Magic. Always there, just needs eyes wide open. Perhaps a certain frame of mind, a bit of flexibility. A walk, reading, a December 26, 2022 post post