[!QUOTE] If a strategy to be safe is nothing more than what makes us feel safer, the strategy is probably flawed. For example, fearful fliers feel safe when driving. So, if they follow their feelings rather than their logic, they expose themselves to danger by driving for hours when they could reach the destination safely in a few minutes by flying.

Being Safe vs. Feeling Safe | Psychology Today

• GARDEN/notes/An incomplete list of things that help me feel safe
• Feeling safe is often a different thing than being safe.
• To develop the skills or make the changes that keep us safer, we often have to learn how to feel safe first.
• Sometimes the things that will keep us safe evoke more terror/sense of threat, so we avoid them.
• A big part of feeling safe is trusting yourself and your own ability to handle whatever happens.
• GARDEN/notes/Failure is defragilising.

[!QUOTE] To be safe, people need to be free from the threat of physical or mental harm. But to feel safe, people need to be free from the perception of potential harm, confident that they understand what the likeliest threats are and that they are capable of avoiding them. Whether their perception is accurate is often incidental, at best, to the feeling itself.

Coronavirus Safety: Why the Pandemic Baffles America - The Atlantic