I cannot create happiness, success, or meaning for someone else.

Those things can only be created from the inside out.

Even my best efforts will not be enough to provide from the outside what can only be formed from the inside.

I can’t choose someone else’s emotional landscape anymore than they can choose mine. I can’t decide what success means to someone else. I can’t define meaning for another person. I can’t create a sense of self outside of myself, and I can’t impose a sense of self upon someone else.

This also means that I am not in a position to judge what others determine to be their happiness, success, or meaning. These things are necessarily self-determined.